Hey Eirik, I don’t think the exact shading can be replicated, but I think there are a couple of decent options. Here is wireframe by default and like you said it looks like a mess:

The first option is to use x-ray at a low value instead of wireframe:

The second option is to use a theme that has dark edit mode wires but light object mode wires:

Here’s mine if you want it.
I hope that helps!