I don’t *think* auto-merge verts should be on by default. That would screw up a lot of modeling behavior if it became a new default. Instead I use the merge > by distance tool instead for specific times when I know I have duplicate verts on top of each other.
PS: @blanchsb thanks for taking the time to be so helpful with site questions. I’ve seen you answering a lot and thoroughly. People like you make this community great!