The minute you said french, I began to read all the text with a french accent. The brain is weird that way. So in Blender names change a lot, in every update they think, hmmm, how can we make all the tutorials irrelevant this time? If you read the tool tip for “Include Active” is that same functionality.

For the selection issue, you probably have emulate 3 button mouse, and that takes over the Alt key on the keyboard. Probably is best if you get a mouse with a third button to avoid that.